Adoption is a Feminist Issue.

Great piece which I have reblogged. I would only caution us not to paint false lines between “First” and “Other” worlds concerning the treatment of women. For all the talk of “honor crimes” it boggles the mind that the majority of women murdered in major American cities are victims of someone they know, usually a male partner. Educational parity is much greater in certain parts of the world we are indoctrinated to see as “backwards”. And more Muslim countries have had women heads of state than Anglo-Saxon ones. I’m not playing tit for tat, I’m just trying to clarify that this issue is global and there is no safe haven within the “First World” to take a moralistic higher-ground stand (again, not an accusation, just a reminder).

For the countries purported to be “democracies” also just happen to sign on to neo-liberal economic policies that provide them the status of being the highest traffickers of women in the world. In terms of unwillful displacement, there is, unfortunately, a disturbing correlation between this and high rates of adoption. As eloquently stated by all the links above listed, the day adoptive mothers see an activation along lines that bond them with the women they see as providing children to them will be a unique and revolutionary moment.

The Life Of Von

Adoption is a feminist issue. If the word ‘feminist’ is scary to you and gives you visions of suffragettes, bra-burning, hairy legs, big butch dykes with No 2 haircuts, girls with lipstick and false nails, female CEO’s and/or makes you uncomfortable, just substitute the words ‘civil rights’, ‘justice’ or ‘human rights’. Feminism is simply about those things and not to be feared except by those who wish to deny justice, the human rights of women and decent, humane treatment of women and girls. I wrote in my last post of the abuse and denial of the rights of women and girls – about the child brides of Turkey – one in four marriages in that country involves a child bride; the mass ceremonies of genital mutilation of girls in Indonesia. We read or view documentaries on the ‘dying hills’ of the villages in China for the disposal of unwanted and…

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About Daniel Drennan ElAwar

Adoptee, rematriated.
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5 Responses to Adoption is a Feminist Issue.

  1. eagoodlife says:

    “the day adoptive mothers see an activation along lines that bond them with the women they see as providing children to them will be a unique and revolutionary moment” – I hope I live to see that day Daniel!

  2. Me too. I remember speaking at the Socialism Conference in 2010 in Oakland; I found myself talking to a former Black Panther….I asked him how he kept going after seeing many of his brethren and sisters incarcerated, exiled, assassinated, reduced to powerlessness in academia, or even taking the side of the Oppressor. He replied: “No matter what, I can’t put the torch down. We have a duty to pass the torch on.” God willing we see Justice in our day!

  3. Kim Cakes says:

    “the day adoptive mothers see an activation along lines that bond them with the women they see as providing children to them will be a unique and revolutionary moment”

    I Agree, but for some reason, i think it highly unlikely. It seems even the most liberated left of field thinking adoptive mother has a blind spot when it comes to equitable and heart felt regard for the mother and her family. Is it how women are defined as mothers socially, an unresolved acceptance of their own infertility, an inability to comprehend due to the never having transitioned physiologically into mother (yet some adopters have) , or is it a deep biological subconscious competitiveness and rage against the first mother.

    I am unsure.

    I have many liberal thinking women who would adopt only if they had connection with the mother and family, and refuse to engage in adoption for fear of engaging in the adoption industry equation and therefore adding to the exploitation of mothers and their unborn infant, but they are of an independent self definement.

    Why the hostility, enforced separation and legally sanctioned embargo on the first mother? Why the refusal to allow dignified and continual contact of the first family with the separated child. A threat to their definement of family?

    Until the prejudicial and inequitable adoption laws and its guillotine nature are changed, and changed to respect and accommodate the physiological, psychological, biological and spiritual processes and needs of the infant and his/her family, this hostile attitude to the first mother and her family is encouraged in its culture and in its legislation.

    Perhaps it will be like Native Title and Mabo in Australia. Or women receiving the right to vote. Until the law is changed, it is just our word and opinion prevailing against the old school imperial way of thinking. Once it is Law, it is truth. There is no argument.

    It is our living truth that needs to change the way so that this fractured existence and prolonged forced separation of the family does not continue.

    I suspect it begins with a look at how women define themselves as mother, as woman, as self, and why. Mother as nurturer and carer, not owner or gatekeeper.

  4. I’m late coming back to this but wanted to thank you Kim for your comment. To note is that a lot of what I state here is in the “implied utopian” form of the verb, for want of a better term. I don’t have much hope for those women who’ve bought into (literally) their bourgeois placement and the strictures of the patriarchal definition of their feminism. Living outside of this realm for a while now gives me hope frankly among those women ostracized by these “First-Worlders” as being backwards and oppressed. These are some of the strongest Voices I know locally speaking. And my faith is with them.

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