Jeanna Beasley of South Carolina, has a blog entitled, “Lured Home”; it describes the reasons why she wishes to adopt a girl from China. This is my reply.
I hope I can clarify here what is so dreadful about your blog concerning your attempts to adopt a little girl from China. I thought I had seen everything in the offensive abyss that is adoption mediation but then I read your blog.
First of all, God does not selectively take people on “journeys”, removed from the context of their existence. Nothing in any of the Holy Books remotely refers to kidnapping other children “for their own good” while ignoring their families, communities, and the world at large. Your “journey” is not supreme; it does not lord it over others and their own “journeys”; your existence is reflected in the “journeys” of those your actions effect. Your dismissal of these is offensive.
You and your preacher and the greater Christian evangelical movement and their idea to “adopt” as Jesus (peace be upon him) “adopted” reveals a serious misunderstanding of the translated terms for “adoption” to be found in the Bible and the Qur’an, but more than that, reflect a modern-day formalization of the same displacement of others “for their own good”, namely, slavery; indentured servitude (see: The Orphan Trains); the destruction of indigenous populations (still taking place today); the population of former colonies. This was collectively referred to as colonialism, and your quest makes of you a colonizer. You and your preacher “Doc” might want to read The Child Catchers in the meantime.
Your decision to avoid foster care is very telling. It would seem to me that a true Christian, humbly and with full humility of heart, would be willing to take care of an other’s child while hoping that that person would eventually be able to take the child back. What an act of neighborly grace! What a beautiful, beneficent, charitable act! Instead, you prefer to go halfway around the globe, after deciding that there are no “good choices”. You seem upset at the availability of “special needs” children, and here you are not convinced, because if you want to “own” a child, you sure as hay don’t want a broken one! But maybe God will work this out for you. Thank God neither of your children were born with any kind of “broken-ness”—what would you have done if so? Thrown them in the garbage?
Your use of the word “save” is very telling. It is also very hypocritical. Just like the “adoption” efforts that started up after the United States bombed Hiroshima and Nagasaki, just like Operation Babylift after the Viet Nam War ended, just like the Holt enterprise adopting out of a war-ravaged Korea, just like Harry Truman’s efforts to adopt Hungarian orphans after World War II, your country has a strange way of showing “salvation”. Frankly, the world is weary of your efforts at “saving” it. This is now referred to as “humanitarian” or “soft” imperialism, just for your own edification.
I write this with five of your war ships off of the Lebanese coast, with Tomahawk missiles aimed at Syria. (Note the offensive use of murdered indigenous peoples’ terms for American weaponry). This is the fourth time in Lebanese history these ships have been there, and the second time in my short ten years living here, in the place of my birth. What a funny way your country has of showing how much it wants to “save” people. If adoption is salvation, then I’d much rather have never left the country, no matter what that might have meant existentially for me.
You complain about the trafficking of children in China, but you might want to remove the beam from thine own eye and look into the trafficking of children in your own country. Maybe there on that upper-crusty island you live on you don’t have this problem, but some of us grew up with “MISSING CHILDREN” images on the back of milk cartons as a frightening reminder of how incapable the leading country of the “free” world was in terms of keeping its children safe. For that matter, my niece was almost “lured” out of her own driveway in a nice white suburban neighborhood. The main point is that this kidnapping and trafficking of children in adoption source countries is a function of your adoption. You are a pyromaniac firefighter, and for this you will have to answer.
Along these same lines, you might want to read about the economic and political warfare your country wages against the rest of the planet such that these children come up for adoption in the first place. A book such as Naomi Klein’s The Shock Doctrine is a good place to start. For every country she discusses, ravaged by depredation of your fellow capitalist class, there is an adoption program. That these are shutting down is a healthy sign, as countries learn their lessons about the neo-colonialism represented by your economic class. That you wish to dive right in there and do this damage on your own tells us all we need to know about you, and the words that come to mind to describe you are in no way redolent of Christianity.
Your discussion of “passing” on children that don’t “fit” your family is vile and ignoble. We are not dress-up dolls for you to examine and purchase, or throw back in the junk heap. You represent the worst that your class has to offer, from the beauty pageants that you hope to use to raise funds (which would never allow the Chinese girl temporarily in your care to participate), to the self-congratulatory mediation and self-aggrandizement that is hardly the sign of a Christian. Your pride, your boastfulness, your sheer egocentricity should be enough to disqualify you from taking care of an other’s child. Unfortunately, your culture cherishes these as primary values—hence your blog—and so your purchase of a child will likely go through.
And I will definitely pray. For you to see. For you to understand. For you to be aware of your classism, racism, and ignorance of history and your own religion. I will pray that your place in the economic scheme of things will not allow you to carry through with this adoption and ruin a child’s life in the process. And if it does go through, I pray that this child will grow up and one day return, like so many of us have, to attempt to barely start to right the wrongs that are a function of your very existence on this planet.
PS: You do understand that to “lure” someone in is to trick them, to deceive them, to trap them, right? Okay, just checking.
*Prospective Evangelical Adopters.